Shopping for Marriage

Marriage is an event for a lifetime. Every youth wishes to make that special moment a memorable event not only for him/her but for all those who become a part of it. Today wedding ceremonies have become a status symbol for all therefore the marketing aspect plays a very significant role in the whole celebration.

Of the several aspects that come up once the marriage is finalized, themost important are probably the shopping and marketing. This is an extensive process, and as is quite obvious, involves a lot of expenditure. It begins with the purchase of the apparel for the bride and groom respectively.The groom makes the choice of his wedding suit which he would wear at the marriage reception, popularly known as ‘bou bhat’ in Bengali marriages. Previously it was some stylish ‘dhoti’ or ‘churidar’ or ‘pajama’ and ‘panjabi(kurta)’ with lots of embroidery which was the most favourite among grooms for this occasion . But these days they are opting for the alternative called ’sherwani’, the preference of which is growing day by day.

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Wedding attire for the Indian Groom

In the recent years the Asian fashion limelight has zoomed in on grooms wear and as a result the stylish male has begun to add class to his wedding wardrobe. Indian men prefer to wear a suit for the reception party. Nowadays varieties of attractive Indian wedding suits are available in the market. Indian suits are a fusion of rare fabrics and western style with an Indian touch. Wedding suit depends on the budget and your personal style and liking.

On the very beginning of making your selection, you should decide on the shirt, the material of the shirt depending on the climatic conditions, preferably cotton is suitable for all season. It is always good to opt for self colored or plain shirt because it looks best with the overcoat. White, grey, cream are good colors to opt for. Next, most importantly comes the color of your coat preferably a dark shade of black, grey or blue is what mostly people opt for. The fabric can be according to the season. Lightweight wool fabrics are recommended for summer. For those taller and lean physiques there is the 3-button suit or a double-breasted jacket in six or eight button combinations. You can button them or leave them open, it is according to your taste. Proper selection of suit gives an excellent look. Then, the selection of the trousers is thought up on that match the shirt and the coat. The fashion now is towards parallels in straight cuts, two deep pleats and a high waist. Get the perfect shades and size according to your comfort and preference.

To match your tie is equally important. A double-knotted tie to go with your outfit is important to give that complete look. Another most important accessory is shoe. Now to give that complete look, go for comfortable formal leather shoes and matching socks. Shoes can be of colors which suit you and your attire. Preferably shades of brown, grey and black even cherry color is also in fashion nowadays. Other accessories like cuff links, optional adornments like bracelets, chains or rings complete the outfit. Complete your look with a dash of musk perfume. This is how you can try out suit as a wedding wear for your reception party.

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Before you tie the Eternal Knot

Every Human being wants to have and enjoy A happy and peaceful Married life. Do you want the Same in your Life. If ‘yes’, then take care of the following :

I find this as a very appropriate topic taking into consideration the present moment. If you just look around yourself, you will see unhappy and unsuccessful marriages where most of them end up in separation with extremely painful and heart broken life. It is really a pity, don’t you feel so..?

Nowadays if you take 100 couples who are married and consider their life very closely you will find different kinds of disputes and disturbances have eclipsed their happiness and peace of mind. This is such a shame. This happens primarily because of the unconsidering nature of the husband or the wife or sometimes for both of them. Because where family should be the most important and valuable thing in man’s life, most of them destroy their entire happiness in life by simply and completely misunderstanding the sentiments of one another.

Here we will discuss the factors that really affect the status of a married life. This is something most of us never think about till or before we actually think of getting married. The reason behind this is the lack of experience and lack of knowledge. I can also say that because of some sort of ignorance of the future husband and wife, this becomes absolutely unavoidable. Basically the young people do not spend time to ponder over the different aspects of married life before they tie the eternal knot. That’s why they remain quite ignorant of these problems and can not tackle them as and when they come and stand in front of them in truly awesome manner.

Here comes the importance of two or three things which are very essential for each and every person should get them before thinking of getting married. Firstly, the parents of the boy or the girl should spend some time with their wards and share their experiences with them. They should make them know all the important factors that may affect their married life and they should also tell them how to avoid them first or how to tackle them as and when they hit them. 

 Secondly, each and every to-be husband and wife should try to attend some counseling classes on marriage related affairs. These classes present the real life problems to these boys or girls before they get ready to tie the big knot. These classes are really helpful for them to overcome different problems because they have the essential knowledge of them beforehand. By using their knowledge and wit, they can solve their problems in a convenient manner.

The third thing that one should take care is, of course, not to bring in one’s ego related sentiments in getting those things before tying the sacred knot. Today both men are women are working for their livelihood and are dealing with the people of opposite sexes. Both the to-be husbands and woves should be open-minded to accept all sorts of suggestions and advices. The flexibility of their character would help them a lot to find the correct soul mates for them in the best possible manner. 
In order to live a happy successful marriage, one must recognize the reason and conditions that effect relationship which destroys a heavenly marriage. So what exactly is the cause and effect relationship in a marriage? Have you ever spent some time to consider these things?

 After spending quite a lot of time to think over these reasons I have found the following factors that actually affect a married life and decide if you could have a wonderful conjugal life or you end up into a painful and chaotic life.

 The first thing one must decide is to, “What exactly you want in your life?” ( In other   words,” What is you expectation from your life as far as your personal relationships are concerned?”

Consider your own self in the best possible manner and then find out what type of Man or woman you are looking for and who suits best according to your personality, character etc

Try to find the right person who’s well-suited to you the most and be the best friends before you fall in love with your to-be soul mate.

As understanding is the foundation of a true love, so try to get closer to him/ her and take your time to know him/ her really well. 

Take at least 2 years to study and to know your to-be life-partner and Try to find out the real man or the woman in your partner before you take the final decision to get married.

A beautiful family life is one of the most amazing things one can have in one’s life time. And it is the golden mark of any flourishing man or a woman. It is an important part of human advancement. It’s a natural thing. But we slowly keep our self distant from one of the most unbelievably beautiful things that Mother Nature has offered us. Take above Marriage formula in to your deep consideration and think it through really well. And determine to have the most blissful and happy marriage life.

You will be happy for the rest of your life

How to Tackle difficult in-laws

Relating to parent in-laws is sometimes the most decisive crisis of newly-married couples which sometimes causes problems in their life as well. The worst is some marriages were accidentally shattered by the parents of either or both sides. The reason may be because some parents do not like their son in-law or daughter in-law from the very beginning which is not good for the newly-wed. What the reasons may be, problems with hard parent in-laws should be dealt properly to avoid further problems. That is why it is very essential to meet up the parents first before the marriage actually materializes. But now that it did not happen or your first meeting did not have a positive result, one has now to face the circumstances. However, I feel that the advises listed below will certainly help you to solve such a problem if you have ever ion your life:

A. Live in your way:  Try to convince your spouse to live in a separate dwelling quite a distance from your in-laws. Here convincing your spouse becomes important because in normal conditions it is found that the husband does not take such a decision quite easily. It becomes important not only to be more independent, but also to avoid any misunderstandings in the future. However, accepting the advantages over the disadvantages in a real and practical manner will somehow change the mind of your spouse.

B. Be social: At times you will realize that your in-laws will be getting into your nerves, then you should always maintain your self-control. Sometimes it becomes difficult to keep calm and although you might feel fighting every time you talk, find ways to avoid it. Fighting with one’s in-laws is not all a healthy manner to make a marriage successful. Never force your spouse to make a selection between you and his or her parents, simply because this comparison is not at all practical.

C. Get going with your own business: To avoid any unwanted conflict with your in-law’s, get yourself very busy with other things such as work and hobbies so that you could minimize your communication. Parent in-laws are more immature when they learn that their child is working hard while you are just at home not earning a single penny. Keeping yourself busy will also change your focus and will help you forget about your conflict with them.

D. Sense their low point: Everyone has his/her own weakness and if you learn them, it becomes easier for you to maintain a good relationship. If your parent in-law will realize that you have something in common, there is a big possibility that the tension will be less important. Most mother in-laws enjoy cooking, while father in-laws love to talk about the current issues and politics. You can ask your spouse where to start with.

E. Prove your point and stand: This does not mean you should confront them for an argument. You can prove to them that their child did not make a mistake in marrying you in many humble ways. Be a caring and responsible father and mother to your children is one of them. Being a good spouse is another effective way. Share the best that you can give as the better half. If your parent in-laws will know about this, they will have no reason to be hard on you.

Assamese Wedding Ceremony Part – One

Assam is another important province of the Indian Republic which lies to the north-east of the country.Assam is known all over for its wild life, exotic natural landscapes and wonderful freshness. The simple-natured Assamese people are also known for the way they celebrate their festivals and other occasions. But when it comes to their wedding ceremony, their enthusiasm knows no limits then.The Pre-wedding rituals of the Assamese wedding ceremony take place in the following manner: -</span

Juran Ceremony
This ceremony takes place two days prior to the final wedding day at the bride’s place. This function is exclusively meant for women and it is mainly attended by the women of both the sides. The groom’s mother along with some of her close relatives visits the bride’s house. The bride’s mother greets them and gives them a hearty welcome with the xhorai, a brass plate with a stem. It consists of betel nut and betel leaves, which are covered with a gamocha, a fine linen cloth used for wiping body and face.

Tel Diya Custom
Tel Diya custom is the main pre wedding ceremony. In this ritual, the bridegroom’s mother puts a ring and betel on her daughter-in-law’s hair parting. Also, she pours oil that she usually brings with her. Thereafter, she applies sindoor i.e. sacred vermillion and presents the bride with her wedding trousseau. This wedding trousseau includes wedding garments, undergarments and accessories and cosmetics. It also includes ‘mekhla chadar’, the traditional Assamese dress worn by the women on these occasions.

Pani Tola & Nuani Tradition
Pani Tola is the traditional custom observed on the wedding occasion in which gathering of holy water by the bride and groom’s mother, which is later used for the bride’s ceremonial bath.
Nuani tradition involves anointing and bathing the bride to help her get ready for her wedding ceremony. Only after the completion of this tradition the bride is allowed to get ready for the final wedding function. She gets prepared with all sorts of required materials which are provided to her from her parents or her in-laws. In modern context, the bride gets the attention and assistance of the professional beauticians. She either visits the beautician or the beautician is called at the bride’s place.

Rituals of Hindu Wedding Ceremony Part- Two

Hindu Wedding Day Rituals
Dear Friends,you have read the first part of the related post. The second part is here which will give you the detailed idea of the rituals that are observed during the main wedding day.
Var Satkaarah – Here in this phase of the wedding affair, the bride’s party gives a formal and warm welcome to the bridegroom and his companions consisting of his relatives and friends at the entrance of the wedding hall/ venue where the officiating priest chants a few mantras and the bride’s mother blesses the groom with rice and trefoil and applies tilak of vermilion and turmeric powder. Here the Groom becomes the centre of attraction for all who are present on the occasion.

Haldi – This is once again a very important ritual of the Hindu wedding ceremony. Here both the bride and the groom are applied sacred turmeric on their arms, hands, palms, face and forehead. This ritual is primarily attended by the women of their respective families. In this ceremony the bride and the groom feel purged with their new life which seems to begin in a very near future.

Kanya Dan –This is believed to be the most important and most sacred part of the whole wedding affair when the bride’s father hands over his daughter to the groom amidst the chanting of sacred Vedic mantras. It is at this phase the girl becomes the bride of her husband. In the absence of the father of the bride, the uncle or the elder brother of the bride carries out this formality and earns a great privilege of his whole life.
Vivah-Homah – The sacred fire ceremony ascertaining that all auspicious undertakings are begun in an atmosphere of purity and spirituality. According to an established belief.

Pani-Grahan – In this part, groom takes the right hand of the bride in his left hand and accepts her as his lawfully wedded wife. This important part of the wedding ritual is carried out amidst chanting of sacred Vedic mantras. Here the tied hands are covered with a piece of red linen cloth.

Pratigna-Karan – The couple walks round the fire, the bride leading, and take solemn vows of loyalty, steadfast love, cooperation, sharing of joys and sorrows and life-long fidelity to each other. This is a very important part of Hindu wedding ceremony which affirms the strength and life-long longevity of the relationship.

Laja-Homah – Puffed rice offered as oblations into the sacred fire by the bride while keeping the palms of her hands over those of the groom. Here customarily, the brother of the bride gives her the puffed rice grains. This is a very important part of the wedding proceedings as after this the wedding rituals get nearly over. It is a very touching episode as well because it is at this point of time where the bride realizes that her relationship with her own people has become weaker with comparison to her new relationship which revolves around her husband and her in-laws.

Parikrama or Pradakshina – The couple goes around the sacred fire seven times amidst chanting the Veda mantras. This aspect of the ceremony legalizes the marriage according to the Hindu Marriage Act as well as custom.

Saptapadi – Marriage knot symbolized by tying one end of the groom’s scarf with the bride’s dress. Then they take seven steps representing nourishment, strength, prosperity, happiness, progeny, long life and harmony and understanding, respectively.

Abhishek – Sprinkling of water, meditating on the sun and the pole star.

Aashirvadah – Blessing of the newly-wed couple by the elders at the end of the wedding ceremonies get over. Here the newly-wed couple is offered presentation in cash or kind from the elders of the family.

Rituals of Hindu Wedding Ceremony Part- One

 Pre Wedding Ceremonies
The wedding process begins as soon as the families of the boy or the girl realize that their kids have attained the age of becoming the originator of their own families in the capacity of the husband and the wife. They start looking for the most suitable match for their folks. Initially they try to find the most suitable match in their own family but if failed they seek the help of the matrimonial agencies who provide them their services professionally. As soon as the suitable boy or the girl is found, the actual wedding process begins. Both the families make contact with each other and have many phases of talks to settle down all the formalities of the proposed weeding function. They, with the help of the family priest, fix up dates for different rituals that are supposed to be performed during the wedding proceedings. The main rituals observed in this phase include Engagement, Sangeet, Mehendi, Tilak and Haldi.
Engagement
The first ritual that is solemnized is the Engagement. Here the family members of the bride visit the groom’s place to make the formal beginning of the new relationship and a formal declaration is made in this regard. They bless the groom with some auspicious gift items and a ring is presented to him. After this phase gets completed, the relationship becomes quite sure and happening.
Sangeet
This is a very enjoyable part of the whole affair where the women of both the families observe musical sessions at their own places. Here popular songs from Hindi movies or songs of religious importance are sung by the women of both the families. These days some people engage musical choir to do the same thing in a more interesting and enjoyable manner. Obviously it requires more financial expenses.
Mehendi
It’s very significant part of the wedding ceremony which is chiefly observed at the bride’s place. As the established practice, the family of the groom sends ‘Mehendi’ i.e. sacred Heena to the place of the bride one or two days before the actual marriage day. The same mehendi is applied delicately on the palms of both the hands, back of the palms and the arms up to the elbows. Sometimes services of professional designers are also sought to do the same thing in a more delicate and attractive way. It is believed that the deeper the color of the mehendi, the deeper becomes the love of the to-be husband and the wife.
Haldi
This ritual is also a very important part of the Hindu marriage ceremony. ‘Haldi’ i.e. sacred turmeric plays a significant role in the wedding rituals. On this occasion that Haldi is applied on the body, especially on the hands, legs, forehead and face of the betrothed boy and girl. This ritual is separately observed in the places of the bride and the groom. The Haldi that is applied on the bride’s body is usually sent to her from the house of her probable in-laws. This ceremony, as it is believed to be, makes the betrothed sacred and makes them purged with the feelings of the forthcoming celebration in which they are supposed to play a very important part. Generally the women, especially the unmarried girls, of both the families take part in it. This occasion is indeed an extremely enjoyable episode of the whole wedding celebration which is enjoyed by one and all present on the spot.
 Tilak
 This ceremony is the first official ritual of the wedding ceremony of a Hindu marriage. Here the bride is given a ceremonial recognition of the to-be son-in-law for the bride’s family. He is blessed by the elders of the bride’s family and is offered all sorts of gift items which include wedding attire, other accessories, cosmetic items which chiefly includes his shaving kit, perfumes, a set of handkerchiefs etc. He is also given a gold ring as a token of the new relationship which he is supposed to get in. To get a more detailed information on the other castes in different religions, Please visit the following link:
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Wedding Trousseau :

Marriage is an event of a life time as it comes only once in your life. For Indian girls, wedding is a dream occasion as the Indian girls are strongly bound with the culture and traditions of their family and they have more faith in this relationship than the girls elsewhere. It is an occasion which every Indian girl wishes to celebrate more ceremonially and enthusiastically and wishes to make it more memorable for her as well as for others who become a part of it. Every girl wants to look like a queen on this special day of her life.

For an Indian bride her wedding trousseau is very important. Everybody wants to buy the best trousseau in the market. So trousseau shopping is a very difficult job. It has to be exclusive yet as inexpensive as possible. It has to be elegant as well as trendy and fashionable. The first thing you should have in mind when you go shopping for your wedding trousseau is your budget because according to your budget you should select your trousseau. The next thing you should look for is the style. First of all decide whether you want a traditional trousseau or a simple and casual trousseau or a trousseau which has a Western formal look. After you have thought and resolved your style then only you can make a choice. But normally, the Indian bride show their liking for traditional heavy work trousseau as there are hardly any occasions for Indian bride to dress casually. You have to keep in mind that your choice must be very feminine in look. Though most Indian girls prefer dark and vibrant colors but nowadays colors like pastel shades and whites are also in great demand. People are opting for latest sleek designs and light colors rather than going for traditional heavy embroidery trousseau.

Nowadays metallic colors are also in vogue. Colors like silver or rust brown can be a very good option. During summer, you should go for cool colors like sky blue, sea green and other soothing colors. These colors look decent and are very comfortable to put on. Another look for the season is nets, transparent fabrics, and a general feel of lightness. It is advisable to avoid total golden look and go for white gold and silver look. Wedding trousseau is generally of rich materials such as silks and velvets and worked over heavily in gold trimmings or brocade. Colors are reds, pinks, and maroons, which are mostly used by Indians. Every ceremony requires a different look of the bride. Like for the sangeet ceremony go for something sleek and light. You can try a tissue lachha in pastel shades with light zardosi work. You should also show your likeness for colors like pista green, peach and lemon yellow. For the mehendi ceremony try out something traditional like Banarasi or a Kanjeevaram, or a bandhej sari. For the wedding reception, ghagra cholis or lehengas in traditional designs and colors like red, maroon, pink, or wine shades, with heavy zardosi work will look stunning. Match it up with traditional kundan jewelry. If you follow these tips for you, it is expected that you would become the apple of every eye including your to-be life partner on the very first sight that he will have on you.

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Bengali Wedding

Marriage is a life time affair in the life of every human being as it comes only once in one’s life.For this very reason every boy and girl make all possible effort to make it a memorable part of his or her life.Every Indian community has a firm faith and belief in the God and His blessings,therefore the wedding rituals of every Indian community are entirely based upon religious sentiments and faith. Due to this, the standing religious proceedings are practised inthose wedding rituals.

The Bengali wedding rituals are very attractive and are full of extremely enjoyable episodes.The entire family of the bride and the groom partcipate in it with great sense of celebration. every member of the family partcipate in the entire wedding ceremony.Its a massive famoily occasion for all of them. Just after the marriage negotiations are finalised, the whole family gets busy making the arrangements of the wedding.

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Honeymoon: The time of Love

Waht is marriage? The simplest answer to this question would be ‘the beginning of a new relationship of a man and a woman’.But that’s not all. The answer is not that simple.Actually,according to me, the term ‘marriage’ stands for a relationship not only between a man and a woman, but for two souls,two families and above all between two cultures. This relationship begins in a pompous celebration which is witnessed by the friends and families of both the boy and the girl.As the eternal knot is tied, two people take oath of having love and faith in each other and to be their side as when required.

Be it a love marriage or an arranged marriage,both the wife and the husband need to each other in the closest manner.They need to share their innermost feelings with each other so that thier love and faith gets strengthened in the very outset of their conjugal life.Only honeymoon can provide them this closeness where other members of their family ,generally, do not or should not enterfere. Honeymoon has become an integral part of marriage these days and both the husband and the wife wait for the date of their departure on the honeymoon trip. They generally plan their trip with the help of many service providers available in the market. It’s the most enchanting part of the whole affair which brings freshness to the relationship.

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